THE WOMANLY ART OF DANCING

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THE WOMANLY ART OF DANCING
 
“Freedom cannot be achieved unless the women have been emancipated from all forms of oppression.”  Nelson Mandela
 
Isadora Duncan freed us from ballet; until then only a select few got to dance, while other girls were not allowed to.
I am freeing us from the belief that women bring on their own demise when we embrace and express our soulful selves. 
 
Modern dance, the result of Isadora’s valiant efforts to free the female spirit is still considered sexual entertainment and enticement in the minds of too many men, leaving women to feel raped on levels both subtle and insane…it is insane that a man would even THINK to push himself on a woman, regardless who she is – married to him or not!
 
Some crimes are meant not to be forgiven, lest more of the same pour forth.  Some criminals just need to stay away from those they violated.  The “Dukes” and “Jims” of my past are to remain there…not so much as a hello.  And as for the masturbator in the next booth, Jason or Kevin or whoever you REALLY are, we’re watching you close at the library and at Denny’s too.
 
A woman is never at fault for the actions of a man.  Doesn’t matter what we’re wearing or what we’re doing – it’s not about a man and it’s not for a man.  Religions are notorious for oppressing their women from dancing, then forcing them to entertain the men.  Female sexuality does not belong to man.  Wolves in sheep clothing, men wearing the garb of god have held women down in every way – raped her daughters and slaughtered her sons.
 
Tough times require furious dancing, and I’m furious!  Yes, this girl is on fire and I’m here to ignite the lunar fuel in every female and her two-soul brothers (gay guys) in this blossoming full moon.  Let’s get a vision for these next forty years…there’s so much to be done. The only difference between revolution and evolution is the amount of time, so let’s further faster the primal mothering movement by remembering who we are:  a child of nature, endowed with empathy and compassion. 
 
Children belong at the breast, women belong at the helm, and men belong safe under the wings of matriarchy.  Women don’t send their sons to war, nor do they celebrate the rape of their daughters.  And they sure did not decide to stamp their approval on the new twist of torture – sons being raped and daughters going to war.
 
Our prisons are filled with men who have violated women and children, while other countries suffer at the hands of American soldiers trained to be brutal.  Does nobody remember the massacres on American soil that led to what we call “this great country”? There’s nothing great about maiming and murdering, raping and pillaging.  There’s nothing for the anglo-saxon to be proud of.  Only an admittance of generational guilt accompanied by change will suffice.  Even the Ku Klux Klan member was born with a heart.  It was what got drilled into their young little heads that make them lethal to society. 
 
All babies are born pure, not just one said son from 2013 years ago.  In fact, the religion responsible for more deaths and destruction the world over is the very religion that little boy was born into…Judeo-Christianity has led the way in destroying nature and her offspring, so it is only fitting that they assume the lead in correcting their ills. 
 
Every child is born pure, and dancing is the soul’s way of celebrating that purity. 
Isadora Duncan tells it like it is..
.”You were wild once; don’t let them tame you!”
Love, Hygeia Halfmoon

BREASTFEEDING IS THE CURE

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BREASTFEEDING IS THE CURE
The top kitchen drawer is where I kept the white envelope that contained money I had earned to help find a cure for breast cancer. One might think that an odd goal for a little of of eight years old, but that’s how determined and desperate I was to save my mama.
Seems like I’d been a dancer since the day I slipped from her body into her arms. So it was dancing that helped me earn most of that money; dance recitals I performed in the backyard, twenty five cents per lawn chair. I danced while singing to songs like Moon River and Little Grass Skirt. When I wasn’t dancing for the cause, I was going door-to-door selling my toys, and I rode my pink Schwinn bicycle to every church, every Sunday within a five mile radius pleading for prayers to heal my mom. None of the churches took kindly to this skinny red-haired firecracker of a child who dared to lead the Sunday School kids in songs like I WANT TO HOLD YOUR HAND and any other song by the Beatles that came to my mind.
Ostracized by the religious, I learned quick that my mother’s salvation from this deadly disease was not going to come from groups of people who wouldn’t even give me the time of day.
So I started gathering up literature from those churches to bring home for my mom to read. I truly appreciated her honesty when she said that it was fine for me to attend these church services, but she – an athiest – was not interested in their pamphlets. With enough judgment and ridicule by church-goers, I concurred that it was a waste of my time. I would stick with dancing for the neighborhood and selling my toys to raise money enough to help find a cure.
 
As the white envelope grew thicker, my mother kept wasting away. I was running against the clock, as I watched her hair fall out, her face break out, and her fingers push down on her typewriter keys as she valiantly worked on her book, NO TIME FOR TEARS: How to Live While You’re Dying of Cancer.
This is how she lived while dying of cancer; she nurtured her two young daughters, tended to her rose bushes, re-painted the patio furniture and deck, finished the bedroom suite in antique white, made olive green and pastel pink book covers for her large literature collection, sang to Andy Williams albums, and kept homemade spaghetti on simmer on the back-burner of our stove. When I was hungry, all I had to do was grab a plate, slap a couple pieces of bread on it then ladle that yummy red sauce on top. She used real tomatoes, so I had fun picking out the tomato skins. To this day, the sight, smell, and taste of spaghetti sauce becomes no less than my mama’s bright smile, loving arms, warm hands, and sweet brown eyes.  
To this day…
Four years and five major surgeries later, her sixty five pound frame wouldn’t give up ’til the last breath. She died on December 7, 1966 with a typewriter on her lap. Twelve years old, my world came to an end. Gone was my best friend and the most beautiful woman in the world. Gone were those daily games of Scrabble, reading from the Book of Famous Quotes, laughing through sessions of Password, learning new words from our big red dictionary, going to thrift stores, enjoying chocolate malts at Woolworths, eating deep-fried burritos at Taco Tico, picnicking at the Woodland Zoo, swimming laps in our pool, cutting roses for our flower vases, dancing to the Percy Faith Orchestra, watching Ed Sullivan, going every Wednesday to the Hostess Bakery where we filled the huge trunk of our 1960 dusty blue Cadillac with Twinkies, Coconut Snowballs, and sweet white bread.
My mother was a victim of the “breastfeeding failure” conspiracy. Were doctors really that stupid to not see a problem with yanking babies out of women, removing them from mamas, sticking a bottle in their mouths then diagnosing women with breastfeeding failure when, in fact, the newborn could not latch on due to nipple confusion?
Nearly fifty years later, the verdict is in. Women who do not breastfeed in the first years of their child’s life have a nearly fifty percent increased risk of breast cancer.
So, where’s all the colorful breastfeeding posters what should be printed and distributed by the millions, compliments of breast cancer research? In 1979, Paavo Airola’s EVERY WOMAN’S BOOK reported the following:
“Breast cancer is the deadliest and most prevalent of female cancers. It is the leading cause of cancer deaths among women in the U.S. and it is increasing at an alarming rate. Breast cancer is expected to strike one of every fourteen women. Almost 100,000 new cases are reported, and almost 40,000 women die of breast cancer each year. Numbers are growing with every new year. The number one cause of breast cancer is failure to breastfeed baby.”
Obviously, breastfeeding is the cure.  
Obviously, breast cancer research is avoiding the truth.  
 
What researcher, in their right mind, would not celebrate the discovery that one specific action can bring about a near 50% cure-rate?   Researchers with their eye on a continuing paycheck far larger than any of us could possibly fatham.
Wake up Women!  
These are YOUR breasts,  
use them or lose them.
Love,  
Hygeia Lee Halfmoon  
Please share for the sake of all women!

HALLOWEEN IN QUARTZSITE AND LAHAINA

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“We do something to make someone else happy: and there’s nothing in the world that can make us happier too.” The Tibetan Book of Yoga

Quartzsite is a gathering of grandparents, great grandparents, and great great grandparents who look forward to Halloween. No, these elders don’t wait impatiently for a night on the town wearing costumes and such…but they DO wait in anticipation of the costume-laden children who are on their way to trick-or-treat the RV Parks of our little desert town.

A magic wand combined with my vision of HERE TODAY GONE TO MAUI would give these trusty elders an opportunity to add yet another party to their halloween festivities…Halloween in Lahaina is a party of people gathered from the world over in costumes more creative than imaginable! Learn more at visitlahaina.com and, by all means, keep up the good work at being such great grandparents!!!

Love,
Hygeia

POSITIVE HEADSPACE

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How to Break Out of a Victim Mentality: 7 Powerful Tips

by Henrik Edberg


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“If it’s never our fault, we can’t take responsibility for it. If we can’t take responsibility for it, we’ll always be its victim.”
Richard Bach

“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.”
John W. Gardner

One big problem a lot of people have is that they slip into thinking of themselves as victims that have little or no control over their lives. In this headspace you feel sorry for yourself, the world seems to be against you and you get stuck. Little to no action is taken and you get lost in a funk of sadness and self-pity.

So how can you move out of that mindset? In this article I’d like to share a few things that have helped me.

1. Know the benefits of a victim mentality.

There are a few benefits of the victim mentality:

  • Attention and validation.You can always get good feelings from other people as they are concerned about you and try to help you out. On the other hand, it may not last for that long as people get tired of it.
  • You don’t have to take risks.When you feel like a victim you tend to not take action and then you don’t have to risk for example rejection or failure.
  • Don’t have to take the sometimes heavy responsibility.Taking responsibility for you own life can be hard work, you have to make difficult decisions and it is just heavy sometimes. In the short term it can feel like the easier choice to not take personal responsibility.
  • It makes you feel right. When you feel like the victim and like everyone else – or just someone else – is wrong and you are right then that can lead to pleasurable feelings.

In my experience, by just being aware of the benefits I can derive from victim thinking it becomes easier to say no to that and to choose to take a different path.

It also makes it easier to make rational decisions about what to do. Yes, I know that I can avoid risk and the hard work of taking action by feeling like a victim. But I also know that there are even more positive results if I choose to take the other route, if I make the better choice to take a chance and start moving forward.

2. Be ok with not being the victim.

So to break out of that mentality you have to give up the benefits above. You might also experience a sort of emptiness within when you let go of victim thinking. You may have spent hours each week with thinking and talking about how wrong things have gone for you in life. Or how people have wronged you and how you could get some revenge or triumph over them.

Now you have to fill your life with new thinking that may feel uncomfortable because it is not so intimately familiar as the victim thinking your have been engaging in for years.

3. Take responsibility for your life.

Why do people often have self-esteem problems? I’d say that one of the big reasons is that they don’t take responsibility for their lives. Instead someone else is blamed for the bad things that happen and a victim mentality is created and empowered.

This damages many vital parts in your life. Stuff like relationships, ambitions and achievements.

That hurt will not stop until you wise up and take responsibility for your life. There is really no way around it.

And the difference is really remarkable. Just try it out. You feel so much better about yourself even if you only take personal responsibility for your own life for a day.

This is also a way to stop relying on external validation like praise from other people to feel good about yourself. Instead you start building a stability within and a sort of inner spring that fuels your life with positive emotions no matter what other people say or do around you.

4. Gratitude.

When I feel that I am putting myself in victim role I like to ask myself this question:

“Does someone have it worse on the planet?”

The answer may not result in positive thoughts, but it can sure snap you of a somewhat childish “poor, poor me…” attitude pretty quickly. I understand that I have much to be grateful for in my life.

This question changes my perspective from a narrow, self-centred one into a much wider one. It helps me to lighten up about my situation.

After I have changed my perspective I usually ask another question like:

“What is the hidden opportunity within this situation?”

That is very helpful to keep your focus on how to solve a problem or get something good out a current situation. Rather than asking yourself “why?” over and over and thereby focusing on making yourself feel worse and worse.

5. Forgive.

It’s easy to get wrapped up in thinking that forgiveness is just about something you “should do”. But forgiving can in a practical way be extremely beneficial for you.

One of the best reasons to forgive can be found in this quote by Catherine Ponder:

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”

As long as you don’t forgive someone you are linked to that person. Your thoughts will return to the person who wronged you and what s/he did over and over again. The emotional link between the two of you is so strong and inflicts much suffering in you and – as a result of your inner turmoil – most often in other people around you too.

When you forgive you do not only release the other person. You set yourself free too from all of that agony.

6. Turn your focus outward and help someone out.

The questions in tip #4 are useful. Another question I use when I get into the victim headspace is simply:

“How can I give value right now?”

Asking that question and making that shift in what you focus on really helps, even if you may not feel totally like doing it.

So I figure out how I can give someone else value, how I can help someone out.

And thing is that the way you behave and think towards others seems to have a big, big effect on how you behave towards yourself and think about yourself. For example, judge people more and you tend to judge yourself more. Be more kind to other people and help them and you tend to be more kind and helpful to yourself.

A bit counter intuitive perhaps, but that has been my experience. The more you love other people, the more your love yourself.

7. Give yourself a break.

Getting out of a victim mentality can be hard. Some days you will slip. That’s ok. Be ok with that.

And be nice to yourself. If you have to be perfect then one little slip is made into a big problem and may cause you to spiral down into a very negative place for many days.

It is more helpful to just give yourself a break and use the tips above to move yourself into a positive and empowered headspace once again.

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